Most parents immediately want to know, “How long do I have to stay in Holland?” I’ll be honest with you. You won’t necessarily know that when you get there. For some people, it’s a short stay of a few years. For others, it may take until adulthood. For still others, it’s a lifetime.
Regardless of where you fit in, try not to be so focused on getting out that you forget to enjoy the time there. Whether measured in months or years, it will be a time of growth for everyone in the family. There will be amazement at how the human body functions and develops when you see it mature in slow motion. There will be times when you want to give up because it’s too hard. You will constantly be amazed at the human spirit as you watch your child struggle to get to that next milestone. It’s a different kind of life and it will redefine who you are as a person, but all of these are good things.
Some may go on to Italy with few traces of the Holland detour. Others will go to Italy, but with an extra suitcase of adaptations and accommodations. The extra suitcase is packed very carefully during your stay in Holland as your child masters the world around them. For the rest, feel free to plant some tulips and some trees because you’re already home.
[This blog post references an essay written by Emily Perl Kingsley titled Welcome to Holland.]